Relationship Issues

How can I find ‘my person’?

You work hard all day.

After work, you go out for a drink with someone from Hinge. Another round of first date chit-chat.

Meh. No spark.

You get home, sink into your couch, and that feeling washes over you.

Loneliness.

“Is it so much to ask to have someone to share life with? Why can’t I find someone? Ugh.”

You grab your phone, check the app again. But you’re doubting it will get you what you want.

It’s even hard to stay connected with friends these days.

Everyone’s on social media, sharing their highlight reel. You tag each other in memes, message each other sometimes. Occasionally, you’ll go out for a drink. But how often do you get together and… really talk… anymore?

Wired for connection

It’s a difficult time to connect and stay connected. On top of that, relationships are inherently complex and vulnerable. AND, they are important to us and make up a huge part of our lives, so the stakes are high. Because we are wired for connection, a threat to a relationship can feel like a threat to your survival, even if that doesn’t make rational sense.

There are so many relationships we navigate each day: Partners, spouses, love interests, roommates, co-workers, bosses, family members, friends.

Relationships are integral to our wellbeing

If you’re having trouble in any of your relationships, I can help.

I understand that your relationships are an integral part to your happiness and wellbeing, so I help people like you go from feeling disconnected and isolated to feeling connected, understood, and cared for.

We’ll start with coming to an understanding of your current problem. Then, we’ll be curious about whether this relationship pattern shows up anywhere else in your life. We’ll think a lot about what is making your relationships work and what is causing trouble. I’ll help you develop some new ways to approach and be in your relationships, and I’ll encourage you to build on the strengths you already have.

Through therapy, you will become more confident in your relationships. You will improve your ability to communicate. You will learn when to set limits with people and when to let them get closer. You will get better at finding the balance between advocating for yourself and compromising when necessary.

You don’t have to stay stuck in loneliness and frustrating relationships. Call me today at (805) 664-1177 for your free phone consultation about how I can help.